Saturday, August 2, 2008

Mamas need a kind word too!

In my opinion mothering is the most important job in the world! I mean our job is to raise another (or multiple) human beings to be good, moral, kind people. How we raise these little creatures affect how they will parent one day or how they will treat their spouse. Talk about pressure!

That is why I think we get so burnt out so often as mamas. In a job outside of the home at least we get performance evaluations. We get told that we are meeting or even exceeding our goals. We receive raises and pats on the back. From our babies we get spit up on, poo'd on and now we tinkle when we sneeze or laugh too hard. :)

I am only speaking for myself here but a kind word from our spouse, mother or friend can renew your energy and inspire you. Save the flowers and gifts. I just want to hear that I am a good mama and that my hubby thinks I am doing a good job. I guess its because I value my job so much that I care how I am doing. I don't mean to sound whiny. I am pretty confident in the choices that I am making. I just think that some little words from someone that I care about can really make my day!

I have been relying on my hubby to make these comments but we all know that men do not think along the same lines as women. When I mentioned this to him the other day, he looked at me with a blank stare. He said I was good mom and did a great job so what's there to say? DUH! Recently a friend of mine made the comment that I did a good job with my kids and it made me feel so good! It just reminded me that I need to tell my friends more that I understand when they are having a bad day and that they are doing a good job. As Martha would say ... Its a good thing...... he he he


Katy said...

Yep, I am with you 100% on this. I have been feeling really burned out lately, and I think it's because we get so little feedback. My hubby is great, but he's still male! :-) And my 3-year-old and 1-year-old are stingy with the compliments. ;-)

FWIW, I think you are doing a FANTASTIC job! :-)

Marilene said...

thanks for putting a good word in for mothers!

Thrifty and chic mom said...

Hurray for moms, the most underappreciated yet valuable asset to society!